(Update: My patients are doing well. Also, as a result of the increasing popularity of this column the doctor has had to make a few house calls.)
1) The Blueprint
You talk a lot about what women do wrong. I think that men need to be equally accountable in relationships. You men need help because obviously you guys are lost. Also, the doctor might want to take his own advice.
A) Men have been struggling to adjust to this new kind of woman. The independent, “I can do better than you, but can you really do better than me” type of woman. Let me grab the reins on this. Gentlemen…pay attention: (1) Upgrade your wardrobe. It shows power and women go crazy for a man with a good sense of style. Check with Ehiman…he’ll provide you with a few stores to go to. (2) Get in the gym. Women love to be held. There’s something about being held by a big, strong man that makes them feel safe and secure. (3) Eye contact. It shows that you’re into what she is talking about. (4) Master the small things. Remember her friends’ names, surprise her with breakfast, open doors, compliment her smile, etc. (5) Diversify your conversation. Say ordinary things in extraordinary ways. Women are tired of the same old lines and same old chitchat. They’ve heard it all before so make sure you tell it to them in ways they’ve yet to hear.
Remember, if you don’t take good care of your woman, there is at least one man that will.
2) Duty of Candor
Great column. Unfortunately, it led me to a precarious situation. I had a chance encounter with a young lady. We’ve been hanging out a bit, but I can sense that she’s growing attached. I didn’t come to law school to find a wife or something serious. It’s your fault doctor. Now I don’t know what to do with her.
A) One part of me wants you to end things because it’s not right to lead her on by omission. However, my Dr. Jekyll side wants you to apply the “rollercoaster” theory. You ride the ride until someone wants to get off. Have you really done anything wrong if you haven’t affirmatively led her to believe that there could be more? It’s a moral quandry. I won’t advise a course of conduct I’ll just provide you with your choices. Be careful though because following the “wrong” course might just lead you to writing this column next year.
3) “You Complete Me”
I think he’s cheating. Even on your stupid list I meet the standards. Why would he step out on such a good thing?
A) I don’t necessarily condone cheating, but as a doctor I do see the benefits of it. I consulted a fellow expert and we came up with The Power of 10. Let me explain. Everyone has their natural 1…and that’s the 10/10. It’s the person that’s perfect for them. The problem comes in when the person only has 7/10. Sometimes there’s something missing….in this case the 3/10. (Ladies, the “something” is not always physical). So men will constantly be bothered by the 3/10 that’s missing. So what we do is either: a) look to upgrade the 7 so that we can be closer to having our 10/10 in one person or b) find someone that compliments that 7/10. It’s really just simple math…anything short of 10/10 just isn’t whole. For our emotional health…we all need to feel whole.
(Disclaimer: My advice is meant for veterans in this game of love not for rookies.)
Drew is a 3L and can be reached at forum@valpo.edu
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